Hey little dude, just be who you are man. You only have one life to live so be as happy as you can. Your family will love you no matter what even if they are pissed off at you at first – they are your family so they have to love you. I never came out when I was your age and never have yet so I live a lie. You are the brave one dude. I am happy for you cuz you are actually living your truth. And thats really a good thing. Love to you dude and peace always!
You are very brave to be honest with people (and yourself) about your sexuality, especially at your age. I really wish I knew you, because I would give you the support you need. After watching your video, I just wanted to give you a big hug. Hang in there!
Hey you! Wow. You seem to have it together more than you think. Nothing you are going through is different than what millions have gone through before you. If I can ask, what part of the country do you live in. Don’t want to know specifics, just the approx area. That can make a big difference with coming out. Second, in the clip you said it was summer time but the post is dated December. Why the difference and did the family figure things out by now. The reason I ask is that I work for a publication that serves the gay demographic in New England and my editor has been looking for a youth writer/contributor to do a column about just what you are going through. I think he wants it to be kind of like a forum. There are so many more kids that need to hear just exactly what you are saying so they also do not feel alone. You have a voice and the guts to use it. You my friend have the strength that I and God knows how many of my friends growing up could only wish we had. As far as worrying about people hating you for what you are saying, screw them. God made you little dude, and the man don’t make shit. I kinda think He’s a little bit proud of you. If you have any interest in me asking my editor if he would be interested in you stuff, e-mail me back. The publication is Metroline. It is the oldest gay publication in all of New England. You can check it out for yourself at metroline-online.com. Stand tall my friend. For a little guy you seem to be head and shoulders above anyone who would put you down. Seth.
Hey kid, You may be gay, you may not be. You may be confused, You should wait a little longer before definitely declaring something this big as it will affect friendships and relationship far into the future.
You DEFINITELY should not act on these feelings with any physical relationship. Now that you are Outing yourself you will be hammered to prove it. These guys who will be wanting to be your “friend” will most likely simply want to hook up with you. Wait, wait, wait. don’t be in a hurry to get into this lifestyle. You truly are too young for that.
Take it from me, I am very experienced in this matter. The same thing happened to me at a younger age than you. It has cost me dearly.
God bless, be careful. See your counselor at school for help. Don’t go down this road alone.
you know what it is hard dealing with bein gay
i also came out when i was 13
most people accepted it
if you accept it your self then makes you a strong person
jus b careful the world can b curl
but rember your not alone
=]
im 17 and its still hard to deal with at times
well bro hope you have a good new year
@James
hay lil man keep ya head up stay strong you are so brave you will find out in your life you cant please every one no matter what you are so just be happy and be true to yourself who cares what people think. i know its hard to do but stay true to yourself there will be brighter days
hi just wanted to give you a shout out i came out of the closet at your age i am 15 now. you want to chat my user name is enjoylife. i think you would be some one i would like to get to know better look at my picture and tell me what you think please be nice
I would like to tell you dud you are very mature for your age. Knowing that you are gay and coming out must have taken some real courage. I know how you feel, and how much you want to make friends that are the same as you, as well as people accepting you as you are. I am also sure your family will come around to accepting you. My son came out after 19 years and I as a father love him very much, I support him in every way. He realized he was gay at the age of 13, and I in some way knew down in my heart he was but did not want to confront him, I wanted to be his decision to tell me. He has a lot of friends both straight and gay, and what is funny his straight friends treat him like a brother.
If you ever want to email me feel free to I would answer any question you may have, as well as some books to read, which I think you may like.
God bless you and don’t change whom you are people should accept you as you are, if they cant then it is their lost not yours.
@michael
Michael I want to respond to your concerns. I know what you are going through, and I know even at 17 you ask yourself why me. Life is strange and sure people are going to not like you for what you are. I can tell you one thing we did not wake up and say I want to be gay. I have read many of books and come to understand that there is a chemical in-balance between gay and straight people. There is nothing one can do about it.
Live your life, what God has made you, if people wont accept you then it is their lost, not yours.
Take care of yourself and if there is ever a time that you want to email me it is drwizard22@yahoo.com
Abe, I just want to say you are an amazing kid with a great personality and of course great looks too. I know it is hard being gay and harder finding that special someone. Dont get caught up in what people think. But pursue your dreams. You have a special gift, follow your dreams… anytime you want to talk. you can always e-mail me or put be on your buddy list …your new friend Robby…Tucuteah@aol.com
Robby :Abe, I just want to say you are an amazing kid with a great personality and of course great looks too. I know it is hard being gay and harder finding that special someone. Dont get caught up in what people think. But pursue your dreams. You have a special gift, follow your dreams… anytime you want to talk. you can always e-mail me or put me on your buddy list …your new friend Robby…Tucuteah@aol.com
@Robby
Robby I email you today under my real name Frank, I don’t want to confuse you, but I was adopted at the age of 5 my real parents were called Deppi, and my first name was Robert which I use for writing on web site. All my friends go by my adopted name Frank. I hope this is not confusion. Once again what you wrote to Abe was great and wanting to help him is great, he needs people like you as a support group.
If you get a chance read my email to you, I hope you respond.
@fabian wells
Fabian I am proud of you as well as Abe, I know it must have been hard for you to come out at the age of 13, my son Josh came out at the age of 19, and I am very proud of him, I love him very much and support him in every way. Ever since I was a young boy I have always keep and open mind, and it hurt me at some time, because I always protected those that were in the same boat as you are. At times we wounder what went wrong with our life and why you and my son are the way you are.
Fabian if there is a time you ever want to email me or chat here is my email address drwizard22@yahoo.com my IM is ilconte222 .I know it is hard living such a life, and people are very cruel. I am here for you and Abe, and would like hearing from you. My son and me are now in Kenya on a good will trip visiting young boys with HIV. We will be back in the states next Tuesday.
Keep the faith, and don’t change for others, people need to accept you for what you are, if not they are really loosing out on a good friendship.
U are very brave especially having to deal with two older brothers who probably suspect u are gay.Hang in there, u will be surprised how many other boys your age and living in your area are also gay.Become a detective and track them down!![that's a joke]Be happy with who u are.
David a good comment to Abe issue, be happy with whom you are. I am sure Abe day will come when he will find the right match, but until then he must be careful In how he goes about meeting people of his own gender.
My son Josh did not come out until he was 19 and now 24 still has not found the wright person.
Just saw your video and wanted to say that you are a very sensitive and articulate young man. You have a very clear sense of direction about you. Accepting yourself for who you are is one of the most critical steps to ensuring a healthy mental foundation. I knew when i was younger than you. Unfortunately, i lived in a different place and time. I would encourage you to continue to share your personal identity with others with whom you feel comfortable with. You seem to have a very strong sense of character when it comes to other individuals. That will serve you well. There will be people that will be opposed to your sexuality . Ignorance is never in short supply. You may not have met them yet,but you will. Your sense of awareness will help you avoid potential conflicts.
In life there will be people that appreciate your openness and treasure you for who you are. There will also be those that want to “fix” you. You are not broke and the latter of the two does not matter.
My upbringing took me to the brink of constant suicidal thoughts because of individuals like that. Religion was a major factor. Man with all of his good intention fails to realize that your sexuality is like the color of your skin;you cant just change it at will.
I fell into a deep depression because of the loneliness and isolation i felt because of my sexuality. I felt worthless and somehow defective. Of no use to society. I felt that i could not talk to anyone about it. The internet helps,but you know from personal experience that nothing beats another living,breathing and present human being to express your thoughts to. I did not have that at the time. I now understand why so many people consider taking their own lives as a result. I have walked that path ;its a very dark one that i will never revisit.
Things turned around for me when i started to accept myself for who i am. It was not an overnight transition,but here i am.
Thankfully, our world today is a little better as far as tolerance is concerned. You should never experience a problem at school simply because of your orientation. If you do, dont hesitate to talk to your school faculty about it.
Since coming to terms with my sexuality , i have made several new friends. These are people from various backgrounds believe it or not and most of them are neither bi nor gay. My two best friends are totally straight and are guys. They have a great sense of humor about my sexual preference and usually plug their ears if i make comments about a guy,but when it comes to hanging out, i am just “one of the guys”. They are great listeners and have great empathy when i need someone to talk to though .
I wish their were a “one size fits all” book or pamphlet i could recommend for you,but unfortunately i have yet to find it. Everyone has unique circumstances with which to deal and i believe that only you will know the right way to broach the subject when the time comes to tell certain friends or family. Some people you may never tell. Thats another story though.
I wish you all the luck though young man. You are more than welcome to contact me if you feel that i may be able to help you in any way. Its my sincere hope that you will continue to always be true to yourself in spite of your circumstance or what other people think of you. In the end, how satisfied you are with your own perception of your life is what will really matter and determine your level of satisfaction with your life. -DB
Hey Buddy. That is what alot of people would call courage. Being able to come out and say it to people and to explain to your parents is a really big deal. I know your parents are going to be mad for a while but it could also be that they don’t understand yet or even that they are just shocked at the outcome of it and don’t know how to react or feel about it. I remember when i told my parents i was around 14/15 at the time and they had a hard go of it. i then told them that it was a life choice and that i was ok with it. If you wanna talk some more don’t hesitate to add my email address. and then we can talk. I know how it’s like i was in your same position not to long ago. If you want to add my email. nba_streetballer32@hotmail.com
I wish i could do what you just did i am 15 and think i am gay but i am pretty sure i would never tell anyone i wish i had the strength you had but no one will ever know
A friend just sent me this video and I just wanted to congratulate you on having the courage to not deny who you are. Like you I knew my orientation at a young age (younger than you), but could never had the courage to announce it publicly. Take care and if you ever need to talk about anything you can drop me a line Bob665@aol.com
Thanks for lifting my day… if only the world was full of Boys like you…
Much has already been said to affirm your courage and to confirm you are on the right path…
The only thing I disagree with amongst the comments … was the suggestion that you see a counselor… that is absolutely NOT what you need… Counselors are for people who have lost their direction… whereas you obviously know exactly where you are going…
I was too gutless to come out when young… living in a very different era… I did all the expected things… married… raised a family… ran a business… paid a mortgage… really all I wanted was some Boylove…
My heart goes out to you… sweet lil man… and VERY hot I might add…!!! I wish I was 30 years younger…
Hey dude…. I now how you feel, it’s hard to feel like no one really
understand you!
I’m already 17 and just had the courage to tell some one when I was 15.
After seeing your video and bravery I start feeling better about myself.
You are an example to every gay and lesbian in this world, and if you need anyone to talk please add. pedroszesz@hotmail.com
Wow I wish I could have had the guts to do what you just did when I was your age. I really hope things go well, and you find friends who you cna help and can help you.
Abe, you r a very likable young man. you have a certain charisma and charm. being gay is not easy . . . .but then again, it’s not like we were given a choice. I don’t usually give people unsolicited advise so let me tell you what happened to me and what I did.
I presently work for a law enforcement agency. When I was new, I was very guarded about my personal life, for obvious reasons. Cops can be homophobic and I didn’t want to arouse suspicion. I’m the kind of person who can hide it easily. I don’t act the femme (not that there’s anything wrong with that). Anyway, one day I was working out at the police department’s gym and struck up a convo with this big, bald, muscle bound dude. He was really cool and worked in a different department. As time went by we sorta hit it off and so started chatting more and more.
Finally one day he got around to asking me, “so r u married, girlfriend, what?” I replied, “no, I play for the other team.” He just looked at me confused and finally his face broke into a smile. “Oh, you mean you’re gay.” “Afraid so,” I responded. Turns out his best friend (another cop) is gay.
To make a long story short, he and I have become very close. I have learned to relax into myself and so attract people – gay, straight, whoever. People are naturally attracted to those of us who can be real, authentic and comfortable in our own skin. I have many supportive friends in the department – most of them are straight.
You are on the right track and I’m very grateful the world has changed to allow young, gay people like yourself the freedom to live true.
Remember this: the people who mind don’t matter and the people who matter don’t mind
Glad to see you got mostly positive comments. I can relate, even though I’ve never come out like you have. I’m encouraged to see guys like you able to be so articulate and honest on the web. I surely hope for a better, more tolerant world, and that you find love and support all your life.
BTW…U R HOT 2!!
Wish I could get to know you and be of some support.
Hey little dude, just be who you are man. You only have one life to live so be as happy as you can. Your family will love you no matter what even if they are pissed off at you at first – they are your family so they have to love you. I never came out when I was your age and never have yet so I live a lie. You are the brave one dude. I am happy for you cuz you are actually living your truth. And thats really a good thing. Love to you dude and peace always!
Way to go buddy wish i had your strength
You are very brave to be honest with people (and yourself) about your sexuality, especially at your age. I really wish I knew you, because I would give you the support you need. After watching your video, I just wanted to give you a big hug. Hang in there!
Hey you! Wow. You seem to have it together more than you think. Nothing you are going through is different than what millions have gone through before you. If I can ask, what part of the country do you live in. Don’t want to know specifics, just the approx area. That can make a big difference with coming out. Second, in the clip you said it was summer time but the post is dated December. Why the difference and did the family figure things out by now. The reason I ask is that I work for a publication that serves the gay demographic in New England and my editor has been looking for a youth writer/contributor to do a column about just what you are going through. I think he wants it to be kind of like a forum. There are so many more kids that need to hear just exactly what you are saying so they also do not feel alone. You have a voice and the guts to use it. You my friend have the strength that I and God knows how many of my friends growing up could only wish we had. As far as worrying about people hating you for what you are saying, screw them. God made you little dude, and the man don’t make shit. I kinda think He’s a little bit proud of you. If you have any interest in me asking my editor if he would be interested in you stuff, e-mail me back. The publication is Metroline. It is the oldest gay publication in all of New England. You can check it out for yourself at metroline-online.com. Stand tall my friend. For a little guy you seem to be head and shoulders above anyone who would put you down. Seth.
Hey kid, You may be gay, you may not be. You may be confused, You should wait a little longer before definitely declaring something this big as it will affect friendships and relationship far into the future.
You DEFINITELY should not act on these feelings with any physical relationship. Now that you are Outing yourself you will be hammered to prove it. These guys who will be wanting to be your “friend” will most likely simply want to hook up with you. Wait, wait, wait. don’t be in a hurry to get into this lifestyle. You truly are too young for that.
Take it from me, I am very experienced in this matter. The same thing happened to me at a younger age than you. It has cost me dearly.
God bless, be careful. See your counselor at school for help. Don’t go down this road alone.
Good luck
you know what it is hard dealing with bein gay
i also came out when i was 13
most people accepted it
if you accept it your self then makes you a strong person
jus b careful the world can b curl
but rember your not alone
=]
im 17 and its still hard to deal with at times
well bro hope you have a good new year
@James
hay lil man keep ya head up stay strong you are so brave you will find out in your life you cant please every one no matter what you are so just be happy and be true to yourself who cares what people think. i know its hard to do but stay true to yourself there will be brighter days
hi just wanted to give you a shout out i came out of the closet at your age i am 15 now. you want to chat my user name is enjoylife. i think you would be some one i would like to get to know better look at my picture and tell me what you think please be nice
I would like to tell you dud you are very mature for your age. Knowing that you are gay and coming out must have taken some real courage. I know how you feel, and how much you want to make friends that are the same as you, as well as people accepting you as you are. I am also sure your family will come around to accepting you. My son came out after 19 years and I as a father love him very much, I support him in every way. He realized he was gay at the age of 13, and I in some way knew down in my heart he was but did not want to confront him, I wanted to be his decision to tell me. He has a lot of friends both straight and gay, and what is funny his straight friends treat him like a brother.
If you ever want to email me feel free to I would answer any question you may have, as well as some books to read, which I think you may like.
God bless you and don’t change whom you are people should accept you as you are, if they cant then it is their lost not yours.
Remember you are not alone in this world.
Robert
@michael
Michael I want to respond to your concerns. I know what you are going through, and I know even at 17 you ask yourself why me. Life is strange and sure people are going to not like you for what you are. I can tell you one thing we did not wake up and say I want to be gay. I have read many of books and come to understand that there is a chemical in-balance between gay and straight people. There is nothing one can do about it.
Live your life, what God has made you, if people wont accept you then it is their lost, not yours.
Take care of yourself and if there is ever a time that you want to email me it is drwizard22@yahoo.com
Regards
Robert
Abe, I just want to say you are an amazing kid with a great personality and of course great looks too. I know it is hard being gay and harder finding that special someone. Dont get caught up in what people think. But pursue your dreams. You have a special gift, follow your dreams… anytime you want to talk. you can always e-mail me or put be on your buddy list …your new friend Robby…Tucuteah@aol.com
I’m proud of you dude!
@Robby
Robby I email you today under my real name Frank, I don’t want to confuse you, but I was adopted at the age of 5 my real parents were called Deppi, and my first name was Robert which I use for writing on web site. All my friends go by my adopted name Frank. I hope this is not confusion. Once again what you wrote to Abe was great and wanting to help him is great, he needs people like you as a support group.
If you get a chance read my email to you, I hope you respond.
Here is my email address drwizard22@yahoo.com
Take care of yourself, and keep up the good work. God bless you.
Frank (Robert Deppi)
@fabian wells
Fabian I am proud of you as well as Abe, I know it must have been hard for you to come out at the age of 13, my son Josh came out at the age of 19, and I am very proud of him, I love him very much and support him in every way. Ever since I was a young boy I have always keep and open mind, and it hurt me at some time, because I always protected those that were in the same boat as you are. At times we wounder what went wrong with our life and why you and my son are the way you are.
Fabian if there is a time you ever want to email me or chat here is my email address drwizard22@yahoo.com my IM is ilconte222 .I know it is hard living such a life, and people are very cruel. I am here for you and Abe, and would like hearing from you. My son and me are now in Kenya on a good will trip visiting young boys with HIV. We will be back in the states next Tuesday.
Keep the faith, and don’t change for others, people need to accept you for what you are, if not they are really loosing out on a good friendship.
God bless,
Your friend,
Robert
U are very brave especially having to deal with two older brothers who probably suspect u are gay.Hang in there, u will be surprised how many other boys your age and living in your area are also gay.Become a detective and track them down!![that's a joke]Be happy with who u are.
David a good comment to Abe issue, be happy with whom you are. I am sure Abe day will come when he will find the right match, but until then he must be careful In how he goes about meeting people of his own gender.
My son Josh did not come out until he was 19 and now 24 still has not found the wright person.
Take care,
Robert
Just saw your video and wanted to say that you are a very sensitive and articulate young man. You have a very clear sense of direction about you. Accepting yourself for who you are is one of the most critical steps to ensuring a healthy mental foundation. I knew when i was younger than you. Unfortunately, i lived in a different place and time. I would encourage you to continue to share your personal identity with others with whom you feel comfortable with. You seem to have a very strong sense of character when it comes to other individuals. That will serve you well. There will be people that will be opposed to your sexuality . Ignorance is never in short supply. You may not have met them yet,but you will. Your sense of awareness will help you avoid potential conflicts.
In life there will be people that appreciate your openness and treasure you for who you are. There will also be those that want to “fix” you. You are not broke and the latter of the two does not matter.
My upbringing took me to the brink of constant suicidal thoughts because of individuals like that. Religion was a major factor. Man with all of his good intention fails to realize that your sexuality is like the color of your skin;you cant just change it at will.
I fell into a deep depression because of the loneliness and isolation i felt because of my sexuality. I felt worthless and somehow defective. Of no use to society. I felt that i could not talk to anyone about it. The internet helps,but you know from personal experience that nothing beats another living,breathing and present human being to express your thoughts to. I did not have that at the time. I now understand why so many people consider taking their own lives as a result. I have walked that path ;its a very dark one that i will never revisit.
Things turned around for me when i started to accept myself for who i am. It was not an overnight transition,but here i am.
Thankfully, our world today is a little better as far as tolerance is concerned. You should never experience a problem at school simply because of your orientation. If you do, dont hesitate to talk to your school faculty about it.
Since coming to terms with my sexuality , i have made several new friends. These are people from various backgrounds believe it or not and most of them are neither bi nor gay. My two best friends are totally straight and are guys. They have a great sense of humor about my sexual preference and usually plug their ears if i make comments about a guy,but when it comes to hanging out, i am just “one of the guys”. They are great listeners and have great empathy when i need someone to talk to though .
I wish their were a “one size fits all” book or pamphlet i could recommend for you,but unfortunately i have yet to find it. Everyone has unique circumstances with which to deal and i believe that only you will know the right way to broach the subject when the time comes to tell certain friends or family. Some people you may never tell. Thats another story though.
I wish you all the luck though young man. You are more than welcome to contact me if you feel that i may be able to help you in any way. Its my sincere hope that you will continue to always be true to yourself in spite of your circumstance or what other people think of you. In the end, how satisfied you are with your own perception of your life is what will really matter and determine your level of satisfaction with your life. -DB
Hey Buddy. That is what alot of people would call courage. Being able to come out and say it to people and to explain to your parents is a really big deal. I know your parents are going to be mad for a while but it could also be that they don’t understand yet or even that they are just shocked at the outcome of it and don’t know how to react or feel about it. I remember when i told my parents i was around 14/15 at the time and they had a hard go of it. i then told them that it was a life choice and that i was ok with it. If you wanna talk some more don’t hesitate to add my email address. and then we can talk. I know how it’s like i was in your same position not to long ago. If you want to add my email. nba_streetballer32@hotmail.com
Go with your feelings, you do and be what you wish to be. Basically I look at it as we’re the normal people and the strait doods are the guy ones.
I wish i could do what you just did i am 15 and think i am gay but i am pretty sure i would never tell anyone i wish i had the strength you had but no one will ever know
You go, man i wish i had a friend like you when i was your age. You are so cute, you will find someone
A friend just sent me this video and I just wanted to congratulate you on having the courage to not deny who you are. Like you I knew my orientation at a young age (younger than you), but could never had the courage to announce it publicly. Take care and if you ever need to talk about anything you can drop me a line Bob665@aol.com
A very cool video my fine young friend…
Thanks for lifting my day… if only the world was full of Boys like you…
Much has already been said to affirm your courage and to confirm you are on the right path…
The only thing I disagree with amongst the comments … was the suggestion that you see a counselor… that is absolutely NOT what you need… Counselors are for people who have lost their direction… whereas you obviously know exactly where you are going…
I was too gutless to come out when young… living in a very different era… I did all the expected things… married… raised a family… ran a business… paid a mortgage… really all I wanted was some Boylove…
My heart goes out to you… sweet lil man… and VERY hot I might add…!!! I wish I was 30 years younger…
Hey dude…. I now how you feel, it’s hard to feel like no one really
understand you!
I’m already 17 and just had the courage to tell some one when I was 15.
After seeing your video and bravery I start feeling better about myself.
You are an example to every gay and lesbian in this world, and if you need anyone to talk please add. pedroszesz@hotmail.com
Wow I wish I could have had the guts to do what you just did when I was your age. I really hope things go well, and you find friends who you cna help and can help you.
Abe, you r a very likable young man. you have a certain charisma and charm. being gay is not easy . . . .but then again, it’s not like we were given a choice. I don’t usually give people unsolicited advise so let me tell you what happened to me and what I did.
I presently work for a law enforcement agency. When I was new, I was very guarded about my personal life, for obvious reasons. Cops can be homophobic and I didn’t want to arouse suspicion. I’m the kind of person who can hide it easily. I don’t act the femme (not that there’s anything wrong with that). Anyway, one day I was working out at the police department’s gym and struck up a convo with this big, bald, muscle bound dude. He was really cool and worked in a different department. As time went by we sorta hit it off and so started chatting more and more.
Finally one day he got around to asking me, “so r u married, girlfriend, what?” I replied, “no, I play for the other team.” He just looked at me confused and finally his face broke into a smile. “Oh, you mean you’re gay.” “Afraid so,” I responded. Turns out his best friend (another cop) is gay.
To make a long story short, he and I have become very close. I have learned to relax into myself and so attract people – gay, straight, whoever. People are naturally attracted to those of us who can be real, authentic and comfortable in our own skin. I have many supportive friends in the department – most of them are straight.
You are on the right track and I’m very grateful the world has changed to allow young, gay people like yourself the freedom to live true.
Remember this: the people who mind don’t matter and the people who matter don’t mind
Glad to see you got mostly positive comments. I can relate, even though I’ve never come out like you have. I’m encouraged to see guys like you able to be so articulate and honest on the web. I surely hope for a better, more tolerant world, and that you find love and support all your life.
BTW…U R HOT 2!!
Wish I could get to know you and be of some support.
Don’t tell him like that….Your liable to make him crash at any point.
Let him learn…Don’t hold his hand…You can’t hold his hand at any point
Man Lay off the kid….Let him decide on what he wants in his life…let him love his own life